DEEP FEARS resolved..............

"Neeya naana" a program in Vijay T.V
The show is a debate show;
and The show on October 7th
held a comprehensive view
On the topic swirling in my mind.Our daughter- in -law" Kavitha" participated in this show.
I feel a deep sense of gratefulness to the team who  researched and conducted this show
anchored by GOPINATH

I must; tell all my well wishers, friends and the surrounding neighbours....
I have been traversing  some years of my recent life,
In comprehensive fears filled....my mind in tears at the sight of the baby......as she grew up......
a result of cross cousin marriage
Unable to hate, or love.....
But pulled into a vortex of inner dejection too
"depression"

My life apart....I do not debate it as it was entirely my choice.
So the plus and minus my own responsibility
It has had its own challenges and I have found my own ways of facing it...
But; having married in close relative

I have chosen to marry my mother's youngest brother.

I now have three children .................

I am in the lookout to find a groom for my own children

......mind has been in inner research  all the time.....fears lurking unvoiced...........

Yazhini's birth had its own emotional, moral....
and deep rooted fears evoked..........
......being a bit of a softy;poetic in disposition.....having married for love......
I care more than I should and worry more than I should....
emotional to the core...............

This debate were stability in marriage is concerned....it is true;

relatives circle and care is definitely perhaps overpowering ;in the larger sense

yet gives a deeper security too!an Indian system to take pride in......

"DRAVIDIAN KINSHIP"........is some thing to  be valued!

also the fact that 48% and 52% is the only difference as far as genetic disorder is concerned.....

and 25% there is gene sharing in mama and akka's daughter marriage coupling
and 12 to 13% gene pool sharing in cross cousin marriages is a clear fact to remember.eases the mind .....
to a great extent.

If and in cases were we have chronic persistent conditions.....
perhaps a logical decision to take is also required.......

Socially a stable system, undoubted....for if not despite misunderstanding, tug- a -war issues
we still hold on......
and I myself would not go to these lengths to see happiness in faces not worrying about myself,or my ill reputations in consequence.....
    "beyond trivia.....unity is strength!!"

had it not been for the kinship and "our people" feelings and the help in various tricky situations of life.


       "THE SENSE OF BELONGING"

Which is the happiness of being related connected
then the distance of time, place of residence, why country of residence...
the inability to say hello every day is greatly shortened.....

as" true love is understanding the other's pain"

you too can experience it.............

"let us find happiness in unity,

progress in relationship and trust!"

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~malinikadir